In the Groove
I visited “Sculpture by the Sea” at Bondi Beach today and what a variety of sculptures there were - everything from stunningly beautiful, through gloriously quirky, to totally inexplicable or unexpected. As I marvelled at one, puzzled at another,and listened to the conversations they were creating (Neale Donald Walsch says “Every revolution has begun with a conversation”) I also started to contemplate how “in the groove” my thinking is.
I realised my mind couldn’t even begin to conceive how someone else’s mind could come up with some of what was on offer. It gave me a glimpse into a radically different world and made me want to join in, to add more colour, more life, more creativity to what goes on inside my head.
Love Mantras
I listened to an interview with best selling author extraordinaire Marci Shimoff (http://www.happyfornoreason.com/Home.asp) and she talked about what she calls the three Love Mantras.
Number One is “Love is who we are” – not a stream of energy between two people. Our essence is love and when we get in touch with that essence we become as an ocean of love.
Number Two is “The purpose of our life is love” – it’s the reason we are on this planet. The ultimate question at the end of your life is “How much did you expand your capacity to give and receive love?
Number Three is “The portal to love is the heart” – which is much more powerful than our brain and is in fact the master control centre.
Our task is not to create love but to remove all the blocks to experiencing it. Of course EFT can help us to do that and Marci is actually a great fan of it. Amazing things can then happen when we live in that state of love.
The Battle with the Body
Despite being away for the weekend I managed to catch a few sessions of the Pain Tapping Summit and particularly related to Carol Tuttle’s presentation “The Battle without Bodies – finally finding peace”. Having worked as a naturopath for many years before working in the energy healing field I am very well aware of how physical symptoms are a reflection of the state of our psyche and also of how we tend to look upon our bodies as the enemy when they don’t function as we would wish them to do.
Carol talked about the way in which we end up in conflict with our body and the pain we feel in it. Our languaging supports this conflict – we fight the illness, do battle with the pain – and then feel defeated or discouraged. I loved her point that when you are doing battle you have to have something to oppose so you are setting yourself up in opposition to the very thing you are trying to heal! Not only that but when you have a battle, someone has to lose. Not exactly the way to generate the love which is ultimately what heals.
Energetically what you focus on expands, so when you focus on unwanted symptoms such as all the various sorts of pain the body can express, that pain is bound to expand – again not what we are after. So the goal here when you are sick or in pain is to be on the same side - make the pain your ally instead of your enemy.
Happily tapping can help us do that. We can tap on the symptoms and we can also tap on releasing the battle we are having with our body and create peace instead. We can forgive ourselves for being at war with ourselves and start to be on our own side. We can forgive ourselves for taking up this position and decide to look at things in a new and loving light to give our body the best chance of releasing the symptoms that it is putting forward for us to listen to.
There is such a powerful connection between negative emotions and pain people are often surprised at how pain subsides when the unresolved emotions are taken care of. Do some tapping and find out for yourself.
Tapping for Restricted Movement
After surgery for breast cancer one of my clients was left with a considerable loss of movement in her shoulder. Now perhaps because it’s called Emotional Freedom Techniques you may not be aware of how EFT can really work on problems in the physical body that seem to be mechanical. However after some concerted tapping over about 10-15 minutes her shoulder had a greatly increased range of movement. Even I was a bit surprised at the additional movement that suddenly appeared.
So, how to do that? First of all measure the restriction either visually or with a number so you can tell how you are progressing. With a shoulder you can obviously measure it a few different ways, lifting it to the front, side or back. Get very specific about where the lack of movement is – EFT always works better if you do. Then do a set up statement that includes where and what the problem is. For example: “Even though the movement in my right shoulder is very restricted I deeply and completely accept myself.” Tap around the points with a reminder statement such as “this restriction in my shoulder”. Take a breath and then check to see if there is any change. If there is a change you can keep going with “Even though there is still restriction in my right shoulder I totally accept myself” until there is as much as a shift as you want.
If there is no change you could tap on “Even though my left shoulder isn’t releasing I accept all of me”. Keep persisting.
If there is a sensation that goes with the restriction tap on that as well – it may be soreness, a sharp, pointy or dagger like pain – see if you can name it and do some rounds to help that release as well. You may find as you tap that the nature of the pain changes so you change your set up statement and reminder phrase accordingly until the level has dropped.
It’s worth having a go and see what happens – and it could save you a lot of money at the physio!
EFT Tapping for Trauma
The news of the hoax neck bomb in Sydney caused me to reflect: what if Madeleine had known how to tap on her fingers, what if the police woman who sat with her knew how to tap, what if her parents waiting for hours knew how to tap, what if her friends waiting in the street knew how to tap…… they’d be much less likely to undergo post traumatic stress disorder – which often doesn’t show up immediately. Meridian tapping is so effective in clearing both past and currently occuring trauma that it’s worth learning for that alone. The Pulvers certainly never expected to have to face such a traumatic siuation so it’s great to be prepared with such a simple technique that we always have literally at our fingertips which can be used in any situation. If you already know how to do it, then share it with other people so they can have it on board too.
Extreme Self-Care
I attended the Wake-Up Sydney! conference “A Time for Renewal” (www.wakeupsydney.com.au) and one of the speakers, Gemma Summers, talked about the concept of extreme self-care, which she defined as the art of caring for ourselves in extreme times. And indeed we are facing a great deal of stress from many directions. Even technology, supposedly here to support us, causes stress in itself. I was fascinated to hear that getting enough sleep has been made a priority in the government’s preventative health care agenda because people are up using some form of communications device when they need to be asleep.
There are lots of different ways you can care for yourself better, including the usual healthy eating, drinking water, exercising, meditation and taking time out to relax and do what we enjoy. I’d also add regular sessions of EFT tapping into the mix because it helps to decrease levels of adrenalin in our system and creates a more relaxed body and clearer mind.
Extraordinary Resources
One of my little maxims is that life is unexpected. It proved so for me last week. One moment I had never heard of a man called Craig Hamilton, an organisation called Integral Enlightenment or a course called “Awakening to an Evolutionary Relationship to Life” and then 1o minutes later – the length of time it took me to skip through the course description – I was subscribed.
I didn’t know then just what this course entailed, that there would be 1200 people in 39 countries coming together and that so much opportunity would be provided to me. Well, I’m beginning to explore the opportunities and am so excited to have found the course and the community is providing - as if by accident – except I know it’s no accident.
When we are still and pay attention to an intention, then the universe works in truly mysterious ways and can deliver to our doorstep extraordinary resources that we didn’t even know existed.
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Are you a wimp?
One of my clients has been facing the challenge of multiple myeloma, a cancer which causes many different symptoms but especially lesions in the bone which cause pain and fracture. She has been through the mill with chemotherapy and various procedures as well as suffering with pain from fractures of the vertebrae. Recently she was facing a bone marrow aspiration and told me of her fear of further pain and feeling like a wimp but having to be strong and that everyone saw her as strong.
I pointed out that to lable oneself a wimp in these circumstances was hardly a kind thing to do, that to be fearful in these circumstances was normal, that we didn’t always have to be strong and that she could ask for help with the pain. Sometime we need to honour our fears, give ourselves permission to fall in a heap and get other people’s support. We tapped away on this with the result that she was able to take action that truly supported herself and ultimately also supported other people.
She had loved ones hold her hand and asked the doctors for pain relief which they provided in three different ways. This turned out to be so successful that they then used the same protocol on subsequent people who needed the bone marrow aspiration.
So let’s all be kinder to ourselves and get the support we need.
Understanding the Internal Blocks to Business Success and How to Clear Them
Business causes you to bump up against your beliefs about yourself and the world
Being in business for yourself, no matter what form it takes, Is akin to being on the biggest personal development course you could ever enrol in! Running a business, large or small, causes you to bump up against your beliefs about yourself and the world. It reflects your habitual patterns as well as your comfort zones around money and success. This article is for you if you feel that you are not in flow but are instead limiting yourself in some way, perhaps not doing what you feel like you’re capable of doing, and not achieving your potential or the potential of your business.
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6 Tips for Getting Organised
Make sure everything in your home and office has a home
It’s much easier to take action towards fulfilling your dreams if you keep your life in some sort of order. Anne Quessy who got me organized way back, thank goodness, provides some tips for you.
1. Do one task at a time – AND complete it. Discipline yourself to stay focused because completing a task means you only have to do it once.
2. Only have one set of papers around you at a time to ensure that nothing else takes your energy away from what you have set yourself to do.
4. Break tasks into smaller tasks to get a sense of achievement along the way – always writing these tasks down - use a DAILY To Do Book to write down what you have done and what you will do. This means you know where you are going and can look over previous days and see just what you have achieved.
5. Don’t put up with anything that does not work – get it fixed or get a new one. It is a stress and a log jam on your ability to take action.
6. Make sure everything in your home and office has a home - so you know where everything is and don’t have to spend time finding it.
